Questions you might be asking.
Short answers based on NHS, WHO and Cochrane guidance. For your own situation, ask your midwife.
Pregnancy
All pregnancy guidesWhen should I call my midwife?
If your baby moves less than usual, if you bleed, or if something feels wrong. Do not wait for your next visit. Read more: Pregnancy week by week
Does Mia replace my check-ups?
No. Mia helps you understand your week. Your midwife and doctor look after you. Read more: Pregnancy week by week
How is my due date worked out?
It is counted as 40 weeks from the first day of your last period, then usually adjusted at your dating scan. Read more: Pregnancy week by week
How many scans will I have?
Most people in the UK are offered two: a dating scan at 10 to 14 weeks and an anomaly scan at 18 to 21 weeks. You may be offered more if needed. Read more: Pregnancy week by week
Is it normal not to feel pregnant?
Yes. Symptoms come and go, and some people have very few. If you are worried, talk to your midwife. Read more: Pregnancy week by week
What should I take in early pregnancy?
In the UK, 400 micrograms of folic acid daily is advised before pregnancy and until week 12. Ask your midwife what suits you. Read more: First trimester
Is spotting normal?
Light spotting can be common but always tell your midwife. Call at once if bleeding is heavy or with pain. Read more: First trimester
When should I tell people?
That is up to you. Many people wait until after the 12-week scan, but some share earlier for support. Read more: First trimester
Is cramping normal?
Mild, period-like cramping can be common early on. Strong or one-sided pain, or pain with bleeding, needs a call the same day. Read more: First trimester
Can I drink coffee?
Yes, but keep caffeine under 200 mg a day, about two mugs of instant coffee. Read more: First trimester
Can I travel in the second trimester?
Often yes, and many find it the easiest time. Check with your midwife first. Read more: Second trimester
Should I sleep on my side?
From the third trimester, going to sleep on your side is advised. Do not worry if you wake on your back. Read more: Second trimester
When will I feel my baby kick?
Usually between weeks 16 and 24. It may be later in a first pregnancy. Read more: Second trimester
Is it safe to travel?
Often yes, and many find this the easiest time. Check with your midwife and your travel insurance. Read more: Second trimester
Can I have sex?
Yes, for most people. Your midwife will tell you if there is a reason not to. Read more: Second trimester
Is it normal to feel more tired?
Yes. Rest when you can and accept help. Read more: Third trimester
Why is sleeping on my side advised?
Research links going to sleep on the back in late pregnancy with a higher risk of stillbirth. Side sleeping is safer. Read more: Third trimester
What if my baby is breech?
Your midwife may offer a procedure to turn baby (ECV) around 36 to 37 weeks, or talk about a planned caesarean or vaginal breech birth. Read more: Third trimester
Should I drink something cold to wake my baby?
No. This is a myth. If movements are reduced, call your midwife. Read more: Baby movements
Do babies move less near the end?
No. Babies keep moving up to and during labour. Read more: Baby movements
What if I called before and everything was fine?
Call again every time. Each change needs checking. Read more: Baby movements
Do I need to eat for two?
No. You need about 200 extra calories a day only in the last three months. Read more: Eating in pregnancy
Is it safe to eat fish?
Yes, and one or two portions a week is good. Avoid shark, swordfish and marlin, and limit oily fish. Read more: Eating in pregnancy
Can I eat peanuts?
Yes, unless you are allergic. There is no need to avoid them in pregnancy. Read more: Eating in pregnancy
Is a vegan diet safe in pregnancy?
Yes, with planning. You may need extra vitamin B12, iron, iodine and omega-3. Ask your midwife. Read more: Eating in pregnancy
Can I keep running?
Many people can if they were runners before. Listen to your body and talk to your midwife. Read more: Exercise in pregnancy
Is exercise bad for the baby?
No. For most healthy pregnancies, regular activity is safe and linked with benefits. Read more: Exercise in pregnancy
Can I do sit-ups?
Avoid hard ab work like crunches later on. Gentle core work and pelvic floor exercises are better. Read more: Exercise in pregnancy
When do they start?
Some people feel them from the second trimester. They are more common later. Read more: Braxton Hicks
Can they hurt?
They can feel uncomfortable. Strong pain that does not ease needs a call to your midwife. Read more: Braxton Hicks
Does everyone get them?
Most people do, but not everyone notices them. Read more: Braxton Hicks
Birth
All birth guidesIs natural birth safer?
It depends on your health and your pregnancy. Talk it through with your midwife. Read more: Natural birth
Can I change my mind in labour?
Yes. Your birth plan is a wish list, not a contract. Read more: Natural birth
Does natural birth hurt more?
Labour is intense for most people. Movement, water, breathing and support can help a lot, and pain relief is always there if you want it. Read more: Natural birth
What if my waters break?
Call your midwife or maternity unit. Note the time and the colour of the fluid. Read more: Signs of labour
How far apart are contractions when I should go in?
Your midwife will tell you what suits you. Many units advise calling when they come regularly every 5 minutes or sooner. Read more: Signs of labour
Can labour start without contractions?
Yes. It can start with your waters breaking or a show. Call your midwife if your waters break. Read more: Signs of labour
Can I move with a monitor or drip?
Often, yes. Ask your midwife which positions work with your equipment. Read more: Labour positions
Is lying on my back bad?
It is not unsafe for everyone, but upright and side positions are linked with a shorter first stage. Read more: Labour positions
Should I practise positions?
Yes. Trying them in late pregnancy makes them easier to use in labour. Read more: Labour positions
Can I have pain relief in the pool?
Gas and air, yes. For an epidural you leave the pool. Read more: Water birth
Do I have to give birth in the water?
No. Many people labour in the pool and give birth outside it. Read more: Water birth
When can I get in?
Usually once labour is well established. Getting in too early may slow things down for some people. Read more: Water birth
Is a doula a midwife?
No. A midwife gives medical care. A doula gives emotional and practical support. Read more: Doulas
Can my partner do this?
Yes, partly. Many people have both a partner and a doula. Read more: Doulas
Can I have a doula and a partner?
Yes. A doula supports both of you. Read more: Doulas
Will my hospital allow a doula?
Most do. Check your unit’s birth partner rules. Read more: Doulas
Do doulas help with caesareans?
Many do, and can support you before and after. Read more: Doulas
What if I feel faint at the birth?
Sit down and tell the midwife. It is common and nothing to be embarrassed about. Read more: Birth partner
Should I speak up for my partner?
Yes, politely, about wishes you have talked through. Ask questions rather than argue. Read more: Birth partner
What should I bring?
Snacks, a charger, a change of clothes and money for parking. Read more: Birth partner
Is hypnobirthing the same as no pain?
No. It helps with fear and tension. Pain relief is still your choice. Read more: Breathing for labour
When should I start practising?
Many people start around week 28, but any time helps. Read more: Breathing for labour
Can it help with a caesarean?
Yes, many people use breathing and relaxation to stay calm. Read more: Breathing for labour
Is a birth plan a promise?
No. It is a wish list. Your team will keep you and your baby safe first. Read more: Birth plan
Who should see my birth plan?
Your midwife, your birth partner and anyone supporting you in labour. Read more: Birth plan
When should I write it?
Many people start around week 32 and finish by week 36. Read more: Birth plan
Can I change my mind about where to give birth?
Yes. You can change your plan at any time, including in labour. Read more: Where to give birth
What if I need to transfer?
Your midwife will arrange it. Most transfers are not emergencies. Read more: Where to give birth
Is home birth safe for a first baby?
There is a small extra risk for first babies. Talk it through with your midwife. Read more: Where to give birth
Do I need to bring my own pillow?
Many people like to. Check your unit’s advice. Read more: Hospital bag
What should my birth partner bring?
Snacks, a charger, cash for parking and a change of clothes. Read more: Hospital bag
How many nappies?
About 10 to 12 for a short stay. Read more: Hospital bag
How many dates do people eat?
Studies often used about six dates a day, from week 36. Read more: Dates from week 36
Can dates start labour?
There is no proof they start labour. Some small studies link them with a readier cervix and less need for induction. Read more: Dates from week 36
Are dates safe in pregnancy?
Yes, as part of a balanced diet. Ask first if you have diabetes. Read more: Dates from week 36
Does everybody tear?
No. Many people have no tear, or a small one that heals easily. Read more: Perineal care
Is an episiotomy common?
It is used only when needed. Talk to your midwife about when it might be offered. Read more: Perineal care
When can I start massage?
Usually from around week 34 to 35. Read more: Perineal care
Can I change my mind about pain relief?
Yes, at any time. It is your choice. Read more: Pain relief
Does an epidural harm my baby?
It is generally considered safe. Your anaesthetist can talk through the risks with you. Read more: Pain relief
Is an epidural always available?
Only in hospital labour wards, not at home or in most birth centres. Read more: Pain relief
Can I say no to induction?
Yes. It is your decision. Your team will explain the risks and benefits so you can choose. Read more: Induction
Does a membrane sweep hurt?
It can feel uncomfortable or crampy for a short time. Read more: Induction
Is induction more painful?
Contractions can feel stronger, and more people ask for an epidural. Read more: Induction
Can I have skin-to-skin after a caesarean?
Often, yes. Ask your team before the birth. Read more: Caesarean birth
Can I have a vaginal birth after a caesarean?
Many people can. Talk to your midwife or doctor early in pregnancy. Read more: Caesarean birth
How long is recovery?
Around six weeks for most people. Read more: Caesarean birth
After birth
All after birth guidesWhen should I get help for my mood?
If you feel low for more than two weeks, or have scary thoughts, call your midwife or doctor now. Read more: After birth
Is skin-to-skin possible after a caesarean?
Often, yes. Ask your team about it before the birth. Read more: After birth
When does bleeding stop?
Usually within six weeks. It should get lighter and change colour over time. Read more: After birth
Can I do this after a caesarean?
Often, yes. Ask your team about it before the birth. Read more: Cord clamping
Does waiting raise any risk?
For healthy babies, waiting at least a minute is recommended. Your team will advise if there is a concern. Read more: Cord clamping
Can my partner cut the cord?
Often, yes. Add it to your birth plan. Read more: Cord clamping
What if I choose to bottle feed?
That is a valid choice. Mia explains bottle feeding safely too. Read more: Breastfeeding basics
Is it normal for feeding to hurt at first?
A little tenderness can be common. Ongoing pain is not, so ask for help with the latch. Read more: Breastfeeding basics
How do I know my baby is getting enough?
Wet and dirty nappies, steady weight gain and a content baby are good signs. Read more: Breastfeeding basics
Is it safe to share a bed?
The safest place is a separate cot in your room. Read the risks, especially if you smoke, drink or take sedating medicine. Read more: Safe sleep
How warm should the room be?
Between 16 and 20 degrees is advised. Dress baby lightly. Read more: Safe sleep
Can my baby sleep in a sling or car seat?
Not for long periods. Move them to a flat surface for sleep. Read more: Safe sleep
When can I exercise again?
Gentle walking is fine early on. Ask your midwife or doctor before harder exercise, often after the 6 week check. Read more: Postnatal recovery
When is the 6 week check?
Usually between 6 and 8 weeks after birth. Your GP will check you. Read more: Postnatal recovery
When can I have sex again?
When you feel ready. You can get pregnant again soon after birth, so think about contraception. Read more: Postnatal recovery
Is it my fault?
No. It is an illness, not a failure, and it is treatable. Read more: Postnatal mood
Will treatment affect breastfeeding?
Some treatments are fine while breastfeeding. Your doctor can advise. Read more: Postnatal mood
Can partners get it?
Yes. Help is there for partners too. Read more: Postnatal mood